setiap anak itu unik

saya masih belum khatam buku tony buzan, brain child. sekali sekala saya akan bukak bab mana yang berkenan dan baca. now saya nak share this particular topik tentang keunikan setiap anak kita, walaupun ibu dan ayahnya adalah orang yang sama.

anak- anak saya yang dua orang tu pun berbeza. aliyah ambil masa untuk mesra dengan orang, dia lebih berhati- hati. tapi kalau dia suka seseorang (yang pandai tackle dia), dia akan ingat nama, ingat rupa dan ingat apa saja yang dia buat atau bualkan dengan orang tu. kawan- kawan saya yang berjaya tackle aliyah akan berada dalam ingatan aliyah dalam masa yang lama.

adam lebih friendly. walaupun sekarang ni dia tak selesa dengan stranger, dia tak menangis atau menjerit bila stranger usik atau tegur dia. dia cuma akan lentok kepala ke bahu saya, atau pandang tempat lain. tapi kejap aje, lepas tu dia akan intai balik orang tu. aliyah dulu, dia akan jerit siap dengan muka marah. bila dah pandai cakap, dia siap cakap TANAK! dengan tuding jari ke arah orang tu. malu jugak kekadang haha!

ini point menarik saya nak share tentang apa yang tony buzan tulis berkaitan perbezaan antara setiap seorang anak- anak kita.

page 89- 91- Brain Child, by Tony Buzan. 

from a little girl's point of view...

• she is the only one who goes to school feeling the emotions she feels
• and thinking the thoughts she thinks
• she is the only one who has the fantasy friends that ONLY she in the universe could create
• and she is the only one who has the dreams, fantasies, fears, and hopes that only she will ever have

SHE is utterly, fantastically, infinitely and preciously unique. and alone. 

from a little boy's point of view...

• he is the only one who will interpret the things said to him in the way that only he can interpret them
• he would be the only one with his dreams, his fears, his passions, his loves, his hopes
• he will spend his entire life being the only intrepid explorer of the universe as seen from the second by second kaleidoscoping viewpoints that make up his special being

HE is utterly, fantastically, infinitely and preciously unique. and alone.

important:

• BE CONCERNED only if your children are not different! differences maybe harder to take on board if the children bear strong physical resemblance to one another. you may have a deep seated- seated expectation that they are similar mentally as well as physically.they will NEVER BE. 
• nurture, treasure, cherish and honour your child's growing individuality and differentiation from all others. emphasize the differences between your children, point how much they see from different perspectives and celebrate those differences.